Actually, I did in fact address the fact that their parenting choices were not perfect. But I was trying to stress the fact that one's own actions have consequences.

Someone else mentioned the money thing. I understood this to be spending money. My answer again is that, as with respect, it is not a right but a privilege earned. My kids (now adults) started working at the age 14. They also recieved payment for what they did around the house. What is holding you back?