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Originally Posted by sky457
Hi Morgon, I just broke up with my ex one week ago last saturday. She was giving me the silent treatment and then pretended like she wasn't, was taking space, or just thinking. These denials of her actions led to her gas-lighting me and acting like it was all in my head. In the times I was vulnerable, she projected insecurities onto me, manipulated me to the point of confusion, attacked my character, criticized me, and continuously tried to break me. By the end of just 3 weeks I significantly doubted who I was, even though I acted in the best intentions. In the end, I had to walk out of her room, leave, and not turn back.
The silent treatment is an awful way to deal with things. It often leads to other emotional abuse. Many people here have mentioned it is one of the worst things you can do. I do believe that to be the case with your boyfriend. With the silent treatment; instead of putting your best foot forward, you coldly detach and let the other who cares about you to fight with themselves in their own head. It is a really bad way to deal with things and is emotionally abusive.
I hope you find a solution in this matter.
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Thanks. I don't know what it is, if it is silent treatment. Got a text that said that he does not feel well from all our fights and the discussions (jealousy) after what I have done. So he needs to get stronger before he can meet me.
I know he blames me, but I also know most of the things is in his head because I have not been unfaithful or flirty or anything. More than a year ago I made somehting untoughtful and I hurt him and that made his fantasy start. He said he believed me but as time goes by it gets worse, and since I know I perhaps started it I have been very careful not protesting toó much but things Went too far.
I texted back and wrote that we did not have to see each other but I wanted to know if he felt like we are broken up, or if this was his way to break up, I asked so many times these weeks so I feel like a stalker but he does not reply for Days, and then only with the same answer.
So I feel it is over. I also feel something is not right here. Maybe he is really feeling ill and heartbroken. Or he is just playing me because he knows this is my biggest fear, that he Cuts Contact and Everything. And all blame are on me for that also. But no person with a heart would start this discard just when one of my parents passed away, right?
Well I have booked time with a phsycologist because this abandoning and heart breaking feeling I have mixed with guilt and questioning myself is driving me mad. I am like obsessed and I want out of it.
Sorry for your situation too.
I have learned a lot of silent treatment now, and I swear I will never use it no matter how angry or disappointed I am at someone.
Take care :-)