I've decided I really need to accept that everyone is insecure and fragile and irrational. Maybe they aren't all the time, but we don't know when they will be, just as they don't know this about us. This makes friendships very fragile! Life itself is known for fragility and nothing is for certain other than a beginning and an end. It won't ever make sense.
Perhaps I'm sipping into madness again but I don't know. Dispute if you can, support if you like, but I'm not going to ask The Question any more. It doesn't matter. Accept what happens for what happens, and what doesn't happen, didn't. Accept the didn'ts too. It's ok.