The minute you start loosing yourself - it's a wake up call. I just went through that. Realized after I left the man how much of "me" I had lost. I quit doing my YOGA which is so important, basically quit the gym, and started drinking again. When I left him it was hard but, now the tables are turning and I am realizing all the things I was that I lost............

He never criticized me the way this man is you but, just the same he made me lose myself. Put your foot down! Get back to YOU whatever way you have to -whether he likes it or not!!!!!!!

Sounds to me like he's pretty selfish. Time for you to be a little selfish too!

Take care of YOU and GOOD LUCK!