"What is it that makes me feel unattractive?" ....... Not even ONCE ever having a woman show interest in me, not even any who I wasn't interested in either. Over the years, I've put myself out there in every possible situation where people meet (I'm now 42). For many years, I even worked behind the bar and I was actually as outgoing as the other bartenders. It just frustrated me to see my co workers having the women show all that interest in them and giving them phone numbers etc while I got nothing. I was even "let go" from a job because I was told I didn't have the right "appearance" and that was the only reason. I've lost count of how many times I've heard people make bad comments on my looks, either near me or to my face. The best way to describe my appearance is that I have a "dull" looking face and my head is bigger than it should be in proportion to my body and it sticks forward from my long neck. I simply have no physical sex appeal. Now, everything you've all said about inner qualities counting the most is true but only AFTER two people meet in the first place. <font color="red">My point is that</font> there has to be at least some INITIAL physical attraction there. It's required in order for a person to allow that next and more important step (what's on the inside) to be discovered. If this is not possible (as in my case) what's on the inside will be irrelevant. The role of looks has been more than verified in many studies as well. The truth isn't as pretty as we try so hard to think it is. As beautiful as nature can be, it can also be cruel as well and we have to accept that. I do. Please don't take your ability to attract another person for granted! I would give anything to know what that is like.