Pachyderm, I certainly think it feels like that, although it is not necessarily true. For example, I have been with my T for over two years and I am still in the "pain" of therapy, going through a really bad depressive episode-- what naturally comes to my mind at this point is, what am I doing wrong? What choices could I make, how much more could I be pushing myself, what could I be doing better..... in order to make this work. The truth is, it could be a myriad of things. In my internship one of my favorite things that I have learned is to accept when a patient is just "where he/she is at." Sometimes that's what is going on. This is just where we are at right now. Maybe there is some misattunement between patient/therapist. Maybe there is too much resistance on the part of the patient. Resistance isn't someone's *fault* -- it's an unconscious process. I think in our situations, we do a lot of self-blame and a lot of self-loathing-- and unfortunately, this comes up in our therapy. We forget that there are really things that we don't have control over-- that there is a fine line between what is beyond what we can do and when we can push ourselves a little harder to get something done. Sometimes it's okay to just be where you're at.