Argh, Captgut. That was not a particularly kind or helpful way for him to drop that huge piece of information on you. I have had something similar happen with my T, and I was devastated. I hope you can talk to your T about how you feel about what he said. I have a sense of the intense feelings you're going through right now, and I think it's totally normal that you're reacting this way. I'm guessing your T was trying to validate you feeling upset with him by telling you why he has seemed preoccupied, and I'm sorry that his response was so incredibly destabilizing for you.