50guy: thanks for understanding what I meant without getting all technical.

It's not physical, I know for a fact...he's perfectly fine in that department. But as far as me there's a possibility it's physical. I have put on weight since....years ago, and have stayed about the same ish since. If it was my weight I think he would have reacted then after I had the babies rather then now...when it's all been the same.

Hell, it could be anything...I'm beginning to not give two shits anymore. The couch is relatively comfortable and I like falling asleep with what I want on the TV.