youOme - from reading your other posts I have to say that there are many psychological issues you need to deal with before worrying about how much sex youre getting. You need to deal with your own and his own problems before you can work on the relationship as a whole. I think there is something seriously wrong when you talk about your husband the way you do then complain because of lack of sex. there are issues here that run much deeper than that and thats what you need to figure out. Chances are its not physical. If you know and love someone, theyre attractive to you. Someone who you might have never looked at, if you like their personality, can be the most attractive person in the world to you. So if your, or his, feelings are dying in that department, maybe you should look for the source, instead of just treating the symptoms.