People have care free "no strings" attached sex all the time with no emotion involved. There were times when my husband and I would despise the sight of each other because of some event but still manage to get a little frisky. I suppose there is some under lying problem here I'm possibly not seeing. I wouldn't necessarily say it's all on me because I've been willing, but obviously not making enough of the effort., Because we all know a man's easy to lay up with if your provocative enough (no offense intended, just sayin)....especially my husband for some reason, he's easily satisfied.

I'm just as equally at fault here...I know I am, but I'm the one...with boobs, I'm young and firm and exciting...shouldn't he make an effort too??? Shouldn't he appreciate that??

Anyway, about my psychological stuff...my lack of self esteem probably contributes...my temper and so forth. I have put on a lot of weight since we first met before children....like 50 pounds of baby weight, one on top of another and I haven't made much of an effort to take the weight off. I'm 5'7 and 168lbs. I'm not obese but chubby...yes.

It's frustrating, truly is. If it were up to me we'd be happier and more sexual and get along...not just for the sake of the kids but for the sake of love and our marriage. It probably is up to me, at least 50%...*shrugs*

Sex has it's importance..there's a connectivity there that we have been lacking for awhile now.