It sounds like a surrogate may be more beneficial. I considered having sex with an escort, but decided it wouldn't help if it was a mental issue(s). Plus, the fact I have a physical disability complicates matters. The surrogate is trained in many aspects regarding sex. You would be surprised that the majority of surrogates have Master's Degrees in "normal" life. My surrogate is almost like another therapist. They will spend much of the first sessions just getting you comfortable with touching, emotions, and communications. And the therapist and surrogate will come up with an agenda for the sessions. The agenda will depend on what they believe is necessary. And not always will it involve intercourse. Some surrogates will not do intercourse or oral sex in their sessions. I was lucky (??) that both ladies determined I needed all the benefits of the surrogate's skills. If you go the surrogate route make sure the surrogate is certified by (IPSA in U.S., ICASA elsewhere). You will also need a therapist that will work with a surrogate. Also, but I am not certain, in the UK I think the surrogate and therapist can be the same person.