I think you want to control and dominate, maybe you should see a therapist to understand why you need to control them and to turn them into puppies.

I used to be like that, if the guy did not have a strong character to put me in my place I will always try to dominate them. Sometimes its because we lack control in other areas of our life so we just overcontrol what we can.
If for example, people tend to find you pretty and obey what you say because of that , you will use it as a weapon for control, seduce and you will be self-concious on the days you will feel a bit less beautiful.

Try to open yourself to other interests, don't let relationships and men be your main focus.
If you think a lot of focus are about your beauty, it is a good thing but try to open your options, get a degree or self teach yourself some other skills.