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Originally Posted by Morgonstar100
Hmm. I recognise that too. I felt I told hím Everything, even some things about my Close ones (well not sensitive things) and he said I was secret. Especially he said I was secret about my work and I tried to involve him but I Think he just wanted to know what men I was talking to and had meetings and lunches with.
And I Think he was secret. I told him my plans long ahead, but his was told the day Before. I was open with my phone, who wrote on Messenger and what, who messed, what was I surfing on. My photos. He was very sensitive about his phone and kind of held the phone so I would not see, and only showed a few photos. I said I talked to Mary today, for example, he said I talked to a friend.
He met my friends, but was not keen on letting me see his friends. Why are you so obsessive with that he asked. I have not met all yours and noone at your work Place.
Well ha ha some things come back now. Isnt that strange. And he says I am secret and that was one of the things he worried about.
And we were friends first. He was so important to me and he said the same to me. How I can go a day without texting About special things I see or do or hear. That new song. That strange person in the store. It is so empty, I feel so lost and empty. I have probably not accepted this yet.
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Yep. This also sounds very familiar.
I am 100% sure he was not seeing anyone else, but he still kept me off of his social media. We were on each other's Facebook and Instagram initially, but very early on we had an argument which resulted in me deleting him, and he never added me again because he said he wanted to wait until he felt I could "handle" being on social media with him again. He felt that I had "stalkerish" tendencies because he's the kind of guy who has a lot of female friends (not at all a player, just all talk) and I had questions about some of the women he is friends with on social media; I knew I was being a little too insecure, but he is also not terribly open about this aspect of his life. He was very flirty with me until we started seeing one another, then he was less attentive on social media. I accused him of not wanting the people in his offline life to know about me, and he said well, who do I actually confide in that I would just talk about you naturally? And he said he doesn't just go around talking about his private life. I asked what would happen if I was actually in his town with him longer term (because I was actually in the process of taking a job assignment there) and he said well, then people would know about me because they would see us together. He said I was overthinking it.
Again, I reiterate, I know he wasn't with anyone else, especially after getting to know him more in his hometown setting. I don't need to go into it and explain it, I just know. But he just had a tendency to compartmentalize his life in a way that made it difficult to feel I was really getting to know him, or really being made to be a big part of his life. Even on the last day we were together, just before our huge fight that ended things, he told me some things about his childhood and I said, I never knew this about you. How do you know so much about me, but I feel like there are so many interesting things I don't know about you? He said well, it just never comes up.
He was just totally emotionally unavailable, in the end.