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Originally Posted by here today
I no longer accept their "expert" view on such things. I no longer accept their expertise on how and why people can "change." And, definitely, after my experience all those years, I do not accept that they have much or reliable expertise in how to help people change, certainly no expert way to tell in advance who and why somebody might be "ready" to change -- or how to help them get "ready".
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I too reject their claims of "expert" status. It's a ruse. Or a case of believing their own marketing and make-believe.
BTW, i get the feeling a possible subtext of your thread has to do with pervasive messages in therapy culture and wider culture about positivity no matter what. Put a happy spin on your therapy debacles and all your miseries, cuz otherwise you have a "negative" attitude. Fake positivity and superficial spirituality are valued over plain-spoken honesty. Repeat the slogans.
If you found therapy useless or worse and openly declare that, expect blowback. You must have deviant tendencies and disordered thinking if your attempts to purchase "transformation" did not work out.
I think part of what sustains therapy is actively avoiding defining its basic nature. For me it boiled down to -- therapist pretends to care, I pretend to benefit. This was supposed to be the vehicle for transformation. It was codependency personified. And the tacit agreement is you don't talk about this.
The worst thing that can happen is when the client asks... do you really care about me? Almost as bad is when the therapist asks... is therapy helping?