Showing up announced is a NO NOfor me. Two times I briefly dated men who showed up unannounced. In one case my daughter was still young and this man showed up at bed time!!! He wasn’t even introduced to my daughter! Wasn’t any kind of emergency. She was like mommy who is at the door. Gee. I’d only understand showing up if you suspect person is unconscious or passed away or something. This guy is bad news. You can do better. Hang in there