Jay it sounds to me like you have an enormous amount of anxiety. It sounds like the fears that people will think you are gay have a kind of obsessive quality to them. Have you ever thought about talking to therapist about this?

I have no way of knowing if you are gay are not. I don't think anybody would be able to answer that but you and I think probably all the anxiety surrounding what other people think keeps you from really being able to deal with what YOU think and feel.

This is a very supportive site. You're welcome here.