I'm not sure this is the place for this, but I don't know where else to put it.
I already know my reactions were stupid and, frankly, a little crazy, so...
I don't know how many have read my Long Distance Lie post, and I'm not going to go back over it. Basically, in my hurt and rage, I text bombed this guy like I had degraded myself to doing. My T said that is the reaction he wanted; indeed, throughout our whole relationship, that's how our fights would go. Him dropping the conversation at a key moment which would then lead to me feeling abandoned and then I would engage in text bombing. It happened time and time again. I once remarked that I believed he liked the attention, regardless of how negative. My T now agrees.
Anyway, on Sunday, when things blew up, we said a lot of things over text which were pretty horrible. I went off the deep end in my anger and said I wanted to key his car. I later said that, of course I wouldn't do this--I said that since he wasn't listening to me (he was just texting me the same sentence over and over), I was trying to get him to pay attention. He threatened to go to the police with it, and a recording of me saying I hit him. He recorded this unbeknownst to me while I was crumpled on the floor sobbing. I didn't hit him on purpose; he was screaming at me and I pushed him out of my way, but my hands slapped against his chest. And so I was apologizing and said, "I'm sorry if I hit you." He laughed and said now he can file a report.
After I found out he cheated, I admit I freaked out, reached out because I wanted to know why. He said, "Because you were and are a crazy stalker. I have texts. I have recordings. Continue to reach out and I will get legal." I was like fine. I just want to know why and then I will leave. He just continued to text the same thing to me. I said, you put me at risk by sleeping with me with no condom (I have an IUD). I will leave, but I want to know if you've been tested. No answer. I didn't think he had a case against me, but, looking up the law in my state...he does, and it's significant. I'm scared that he's been just lying low, collecting texts. And I'm afraid he'll use the message I sent the woman he slept with asking her whether it happened.
I know I was stupid. I've stopped asking, stopped reaching out. It does no good anyway. We broke things off Sunday. I never threatened, and to me, it's just a breakup gone bad. I have zero priors, not even a traffic ticket. We live several states away from each other.
What do you guys think? Should I be worried?
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