This man is seriously messed up. I am so sorry you had to experience all this. He sounds totally horrible.

I am glad you are out of there and no where near him. My therapist says that it’s a waste of time trying to understand why some people do what they do. We may never get the answer. We can only figure out why we do what we do.

As about why pursuing you you when he already has someone. Bizarre. I once had totally strange thing happened. I knew someone for few years, not romantically. Seemed like a good person. Started asking me out. I wasn’t interested in dating him but was talking to him a bit. I then eventually agreed to a date and had few dates, even kissed, didn’t have sex luckily. He told me he hasn’t been dating for few years busy with his kids.

Most of the time during those few dates he talked about his ex who cheated on him hmmm sounds familiar.

His pattern of communication, topics of conversations and dating patterns (wanting to see me only on the week nights and not planning ahead, calling at weird times etc). I decided not seeing him anymore, left him a message that we need to talk, he wouldn’t call me back.

I ended up telling him in email or text don’t recall that I won’t continue dating him. He never called or texted back.

Then few months later I found out (from his family member) that this entire time he is in a serious relationship with his long term girlfriend. Family member didn’t know I even went on dates with him. He was telling me about so and so andHis girlfriend. I asked oh he has a girlfriend? Oh yeah same one he’s been with for the past few years. What???

I was shocked. Why would he insist asking me for dates??? What’s the point? He wasn’t even trying to sleep with me. More so I knew him for several years prior to all this. It all made sense though not wanting to see me on
The weekends and calling at weird times.

I sent him an email asking why was he trying to get to date him if he is in a relationship? He never replied.

My therapist said that I’ll never get an answer. People do unbelievable things.

I am so glad you are out of that mess.

He isn’t going to take legal actions. He is full of it. Amazing now many screwed up people are out there. So glad it’s over for you. Block him from everywhere.