Ugh, my friend called me last night very upset and I feel for her so I listened but, unfortunately, she is in the wrong.

(1) she complains about all the work she has to do in her off time. But the truth is that she has to do that because she is slow and inefficient. She has some "time" accrued that she is going to lose because she can't take time off. But she can... she is just really stubborn about it. She definitely has a bit of an entitlement problem. She had yesterday off because of snow, but the way it works is that you have it off if your not needed. So she got called in because she was needed. She acted like she had an absolute right not to come in. I went in and I wasn't even needed. To get in I had to travel on scary roads, clean off my car, and take an unreliable train. She just had to clean off her car and drive 5 minutes to park in a parking garage.

(2) She always acts like she is working all the time but forgets that she lives very close to her work. Most people don't. Every commute for me is an hour and 1/2 or more... but her commute is 5 minutes. So if she is being called in for an extra hour of work, she still has more free time than me. Not to mention I do work from home often.

(3) Her boss is kind of a jerk, but, a lot of the animosity is because of her. For example.. she makes mistakes that are real. Without any extra work. My jerk boss used to make work up to insure I would always be struggling to keep up with my work. She just has the basic job and still keeps making errors.

(4) I have been there where every word your boss says makes you angry, but, some of what her boss says isn't horribly rude... it is just her reaction to it. I told her she has to laugh. But at the moment she can't.

(5) She always has reasons she can't take common sense steps. There was a job opening a few months ago that would have meant a reduction in salary but would have gotten her out of the situation. The powers that be wanted her for it not only to get her out of the situation but because she would have done a good job. But she refused to apply. I told her this was her only chance for sanity and argued that she could do that job -- get good reviews -- and then apply for a better job. She refused. Her boss believes that someone else in her job would be so much better and he won't rest until he gets someone else. So she should have let him find out there is no one better.

She wants to do something this weekend with me. I can't tell why. I helped her out with her work this week and I think she thinks she owes me. But she doesn't.. honestly I just want to help. I kind of don't know if I can be supportive in person.