i agree. being in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic before, i believed he changed every time he apologized. he would sit there and cry and cry saying he never meant to hit me or hurt me and he would never do it again. of course, i came back every time and it took me about 7 times to figure out "wow... he really isnt changing, is he?" people who act like that are usually very charming anyways. so this could all be some big ploy. i mean... if the guy came up to you and said "im a drunk and i get real jealous" you would have never dated him. they have to put on a show, and once they get comfortable, it all comes out. so it might look like a change, and he might even feel like he is changing too, but i doubt something could happen that quickly. my dad is almost 57 and he is still a teenager.

i also have been trying very hard for over 2 years and im still not a "changed person". usually changes (at least from alcoholics) only last maybe a week or even a month. but inevitably, unless he is working on himself everyday, its not lasting. my ex (the abusive one) was even in AA! He had been sober over 2 months! and he still went back to hitting me. i know its hard to tell if its genuine or not so i would just give it time. if it is youll know eventually.