Dear graystreet, I know it's so hard to fathom when someone has lied, cheated and fooled you. Don't feel stupid..... you gave him the benefit of the doubt, like anyone would, but you trusted your instinct and it was right. So good for you for sticking to what you knew in your gut was happening! That shows courage and strength to face the truth and not deny or run from it. You revealed him for who he truly is - a liar and a cheater.

It was an unhealthy relationship -- very volatile, and yes abusive. You will be far better off out of this relationship. The healing process takes time, but things will improve, slowly but surely. Allow yourself the time to process your emotions through this, to grieve and to heal. I find journaling to be very helpful for that -- to get out all your thoughts and feelings as they arise.

I am glad you have a therapist to help you. ((((((Hugs))))))