I told her I will be willing to marry her, but she has to first consult with a lawyer. Now it looks like I will not have to marry her. I just felt that I never ever want to see my daughter in allot of pain because her mother no longer can stay in the States. I would never want this to happen to her, so I have been willing to do anything at all to keep this from happening to my daughter.

I allowed myself to fall in love with her mother when we were together. I have never completely got over her, and it has been about 16 years ago since we broke up. She was still in love with her ex husband, so I decided to leave the relationship at least until she gets herself straightened out emotionally. Ever since then, she has shown no interest in getting back together with me.

Her ex husband beat her and his children all the time he was there with them, even taking dates home to show off to his family. This is when they were together and married. He even married another woman when he was still married to my daughter’s mother. He just went to Mexico and met and married that other woman. Then her paid for her to be smuggled into the States.

When I met her, I decided to make a big difference in their lives, particularly for her children. I took care of them as my own children. I also promised her that I will always be in her life, in one way or another. This has turned out to be true and will continue to be true. All I have ever wanted for them is for them to feel secure and be happy. Even today, I am there anytime they need me. I knew if I married her, it would of been terribly difficult for me since I still have feelings for her, but still understanding that we cannot be together in the way I would want us to be together. Nevertheless, I still was willing to make it happen.

Anyways, so that is how it goes. Now she will need to leave the States for two weeks, and then she will be processed through and given her green card. This is what INS has arranged for her. At least she stopped dressing up every time her ex husband came over to visit their children. Maybe she will find happiness despite all of this.