Hi Graystreet--
Abusive narcissists love to manipulate and control. The threats are there to frighten you, to disarm you, to control you. But think about it: if legal action against you is bad for you, is it also bad for him: if it all becomes part of the permanent out-there public record, that includes every text and every action and failing on his part which, who knows, may just have crossed some legal line in one state or another, and it doesn't look good for his continued manipulation of other women (maybe they end up testifying...against him). Threats are just threats and if they sound awful, dismal, horrible, ghastly, blood-curdling, and generally bad, they're meant to (oh, and by the way, when I remind my wife of some of the really awful things she said to me--before we separated--she apologizes profusely, which is nice but doesn't erase how tortured I felt listening to the threats in the first place...but I digress...). But they're just threats, they're not action. And the more time goes by and he doesn't file charges, the longer it looks like he's just manipulating you. You "hit" him Sunday. It's Friday. Any legal actions filed? Any police called? No? Police maybe had a snow day Monday/ Tuesday/ Wednesday/ Thursday? Or maybe he's just full of sh-sh-sh-shaving cream. You're best defense is to decide you've already had your last communication with him and ignore him, like, forever.