So often I have heard asexual tell me because of my history of being abused I can't be Asexual? Well how is this okay? I feel really alone. I never had any interest or desire to have sex with male or female. I do have a interest in the emotional side of a relationship if I was ever to find the right person maybe holding hands etc but nothing more. I had relationships go south in the past because I was unable to give them everything non asexuals can despite my trying I am i suppose to a degree fearful even angry at the idea of having sex. I was so young at the time the abuse started I can't say either way then what would of happened. I am fearful of men it takes me a lot any more now to even start to trust a man but in my heart I hope someday I do find the right person.