Doctors can be pretty terrible at talking about these issues. I nearly came unglued at how insensitive they can be. They don’t understand what it’s like to hear this. They don’t understand emotionally feeling a fatal blow.

We weren’t ready for hospice and hadn’t given up yet when we were told. There were more options to be tried, but the doctors wanted us out of there and not taking up a precious bed.

I’m not sure if that is what you mean.

A Pallative care director finally came to talk to us about what it means. Talking out whether he wanted to spend all his time in hospitals undergoing procedures and being with all the tubes going in and such vs. being home and being with family and doing enjoyable things if possible and being made comfortable.

He chose the hospital because he didn’t want to give up.

But that was his choice, not theirs.

I know it’s hard