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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Are there people you note that are successful socialising? Perhaps make some observations as to why. Would you consider learning from their success and emulating some of their behaviour? Is it worth trying?.
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I have looked into it and it seems to me that people who get along well with others these days have a few features:
(1) they don't have any strong views;
(2) they either can't... or won't... remember things...
(3) they don't care if you keep your word and expect you not to...
Unfortunately this is against everything I grew up with.
(1) I don't believe I have strong views but I do have views. When someone violates a rule, I believe they should be punished. Popular people just let people walk over them... over and over and over and over and really don't care.
(2) Why am I cursed with a good memory. I swear it is epidemic. People I talk to can't remember what happened 48 hours ago so they can't get angry about it. I am on a group of people on my condo and they LITERALLY can't remember basics. Like that we sent out an announcement saying we should have a meeting on a certain date. They are a completely blank slate and I am tired beyond belief of reminding them and it is like I live in an alternate world where I remember things.
(3) There is nothing that upsets me more than getting all ready to do something and having it cancelled at the last moment. People are sooo flaky today. No it is NOT ok if you cancel something at the last second. It is unspeakably rude. My boss routinely tells me if X doesn't do X by some point he will do X and I alway believe him only to have him go back on his word after I stick my neck out. If you say you are going to do X... DO IT.