This is my first post here...I need an opinion or two!
Last night at around 2am my husband blew up at me (again)...
He said either I get my s*** together or we're getting a divorce (a word he's never used before) because he doesn't want to get a heart attack over me. I guess....what man in his right mind wouldn't blow up? I don't cook (I'm trying though sometimes), I don't clean, and we have no sex (I have difficulties there). Everything for me is an effort. I also don't work...he works...although he doesn't mind me not working, as long as I was doing something ..... But I'm not doing anything. So he felt that I was taking advantage of him.
He terrifies me at those moments. His mouth becomes foul..... I told him many times before to try and curb his temptation to use his "terror" technique....but.....I'm just so scared.....I become scared of him....... I just don't believe anyone deserves to be terrified of another, no matter what (in a relationship)?

Then this morning he (again) apologized for getting so upset. He reassured me that I'm not losing him....but there is a tension between us that's very obvious....He also admitted that he's never been through this before.

This friday I'm seeing a doctor for meds for depression and anxiety.
I really really hope this will help me and our relationship....

I guess what I want to know is..... how can I make it easier on him? You see, he loves me a lot but also gets panic attacks when worrying about me. Or...how can I make him give me the respect I want?

Sorry, heh, I don't know what my point is....I'm just confused....