Welcome to PC.
I hope you find the information and the support you may be seeking.
Please make yourself at home here.

I am not in a similar position, yet I have many gay friends.
I can understand you are in a difficult position -- between a rock and a hard place. I am sorry your therapist took such a strong stand, as you will leave your current partner if/when you are ready. It's hard to live without an income, for sure. In addition, it sounds like children are involved. I am sorry about your job. Some of my friends have been in a similar position.

I hope others come along and comment, as well.

My heart goes out to you.

WC