Hi Gray, never think that you have expended your resources when looking for support. Always seek support in others. Of course be conscious that some friends do need time to live their lives; but supportive friends will be supportive, and these boards are message boards designed to support those going through things. I don't think you posting a lot should be viewed as a burden.

I myself have gone through a lot of tough relationships. I have been emotionally abused many different ways by significant others. Now I notice it early and am able to walk away if I see it. I recently did that with a relationship that you commented on. I did not cheat, but decided it was time to end things. She consistently went after me during and after the relationship. It hurt, but I am understanding of what she went through as a kid and could not regulate herself well.

I think you are justified in your anger towards him cheating. It is one thing to end a relationship and another to cheat. Cheating breaks the fundamental trust we need as human beings. It is mostly the point of no return in the relationship. You can fight, but once someone cheats, things change and that is something that they will have to live with. Breaking up is tough, but cheating is another ball game. I have been cheated in the past and it makes you think that you are not worthy, it makes you doubt the faithfulness in the opposite sex, and harms your views on society -- it sucks.