Im hyper sensative to what I call energy and pick up on whether or not someone is judgmental or uncomfortable around me. That kills it for me. There is no way for me to carry on a conversation with that person. I start stumble on my words and fall back on being quiet. Which, of course, furthers their judgment and worsens my aniexty. For me there is no getting around this.

However, I do come across very well rounded individuals who are intelligent and open minded.. every so often. I've learned that showing interest in what they are saying is rule #1. Always ask questions that are open ended and shows you were listening. For an example, my co worker expressed she had gone on vaccation where her husband grew up (located in a dif country). So, I asked if the cost of living is a lot cheaper there and if the region he lived in is pretty safe. This opened up the cost of living and cultural differences.

I've watched a lot of YouTube on communication. Which has helped.

However, my delimla is my sensitivity to idiots. They find out I'm autistic and its like 'deer in the head light' look and its all down hill from there.. I don't get it.