Making friends that are suitable for us seems problematic if you are thinking you might have some 'issues'

Most people want to talk about stuff that is in front of them like football cooking winemaking or whatever it is. I was really dissapointed when I joined a wine tasting group thinking this would be a great way to socialise away from that group and found people only wanted to focus on talking about wine. Likewise i spent a hundred thousand dollars being a member of a gliding club and found the most fun was to be found landing in some field somewhere finding the owner and having a cup of tea and a chat - often with some really nice farmers, their wives and their families. People who have a hobby like flying tend to be a bit one dimensional.

A neighbour suggested long ago that that the way to meet people it to go to events while avoiding discos and pubs. Eg if you want to meet women you go to cookery classes and if you want to meet men you go to football matches.

I would then have the same problem though when surrounded by friends. I tend to want to talk about stuff that is inside my head while others are focusing on what is outside their head.