No one causes anyone to do anything. People are who they are.

Well he certainly didn’t sleep with other women because you are a stalker. That doesn’t cause people to cheat. Plus you were searching way after he actually slept with other women.

I kind of doubt he considered it cheating because he likely didn’t think of it as a relationship or any kind of commitment. He sleeps around because that’s who he is. Not because of what you did.

I don’t think he was hurt that you were cold but his ego certainly got hurt because womem supposed to admire him. People like this get off that kind of stuff.

In that story I told you I actually agreed to go on a date because that guy was acting hurt that I don’t want to even go on one date. Well he was “hurt” I wouldn’t go on a date with him all while he had long term girlfriend. Really?

People like him enjoy admiration of women. He felt good that you are willing to drive 10 hours to see him AND are willing to move to be with him. He was excited about it. Stroke his ego.

He probably looks at it as you pursued him (not saying you did but that’s how he looks at it). When you started to doubt it and had bad gut feelings and were cold, he saw that you might stop pursuing so his ego wasn’t getting a boost so he turned nasty. But you didn’t cause him to get nasty, it’s just probably his reaction to not being worshipped 24/7. And his true nature came out.

All of this is speculation of course but I’ve met ton of men, and have met this type plenty. At the end it doesn’t matter what you did or didn’t do. All you can
do now is to know that you can recognize red flags better and not get entangled.

He is an ***** and you didn’t cause it