That's a very long story. There's an old thread I started in this forum "Long Distance Lie" which details it. And also "Slow Truth Bomb." I'd go into the story again but a) it is very long b) people here are probably tired of it and c) I should probably start detaching a little.

I will say that today is hard because I am going in for an STI check, and I absolutely hate that I have to sit in my doctor's office a month and a half after they put in my IUD, and tell them that I want to be tested for STIs because the man who encouraged me when I mentioned the IUD, with whom I thought I'd be in something long term, was sleeping with at least one other woman, probably two or more, and didn't use condoms with any of us. I hate him for putting me in this position, for making me look like a total idiot, not just with this but with the whole thing. It's not something I should be embarrassed about, but it hurts nonetheless.