My diagnosis is Major Depressive Disorder and Anxiety (social phobia and general). However, in the past I believe I might have qualified to have BPD. I now only have some traits of BPD, and they are mild. I am not in a relationship right now. I am a lot more mature now, than I used to be though, and would like to be in one. I feel ready. At the same time, I actually do like my freedom and being single isn't so bad. Anyway, my questions are, does having BPD affect your relationship? Can you be in a relationship with BPD? Do your symptoms get worse when you're in a relationship? Does the type of partner you have affect your symptoms?

I'm thinking that if you have your BPD under control and are in therapy, that could help a lot with relationship stuff. Also, I know that not everyone with BPD is the same or has the same symptoms. Me, for instance, I'm not super worried about my partner leaving me. At least, I wasn't with my previous ones. I can be impulsive though, and be bothered by seemingly small issues, and I am worried about how that would play out in a relationship. I would want to get that under control. I am going to be in a DBT group starting mid-summer.

I have never really had a lot of relationships, just two long terms ones, in my lifetime. I have dated a lot.

I see my potential partner being kind, emotionally mature, secure in attachment style, and accepting of me. I probably have an anxious attachment style when it comes to romantic relationships. But I'd say I border on secure and do well communicating. I also don't mind meeting someone with mental health issues. I might even prefer it.

So yeah, those are my questions (and concerns). I'd really like to hear from those who currently have (or have had) healthy relationships and are Borderline. Or those who just know more than me on this. Thanks.