bensplace...Welcome to PC

I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. I'll bet you feel like you've been kicked in the stomach with many different emotions going on at the same time.

What you are going through is not abnormal. You are in a stage of grieving. Grieving takes time, patience and lots of understanding and care.

EJ is so right....there is ALWAYS hope! I know it's hard to see it right now, but it is always there.

I hope that you realize that alcohol is a depressant. Even though it may deaden the pain for awhile, when the pain comes back, it is multiplied by the use of the alcohol.

When you are ready to make a change in your life, get out and meet new people there are far better ways than in the bars. Some ideas are - church, self help groups, taking classes, and my personal favorite - volunteering at something near and dear to your heart. If you don't have anything near and dear to your heart, then just pick something and go from there. It is a great way to network and meet folks and you get the added bonus of doing good for others which in turn pays you back tenfold!

If you can't afford to go to a psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist, I suggest going to your regular MD and explaining to him about your depression. He may very well be able to prescribe an antidepressant or some other avenue for you to get some help.

There is always hope! I wish you well ((( bensplace )))


sabby