Well, for me... I would flip out... and not in a good way. I wouldn't quit or anything but I would 10000% not believe him and it would shake my trust. I do not believe for one moment ANYONE can truly love me... T included... so I'm glad he has never said it. I hope he never does.

I haven't "said" it out loud but I told him via note that I loved him.... he handled it well... but I still feel seriously ill over those feelings, like I just wanna run away.

I think it's dumb how so many "Rules" of therapy prevent T's from being more genuine when in a lot of cases, such a thing might make a client's world. It could change them from feeling worthless and whatever to feeling like they matter

I might actually want or love my T to say it if I didn't already believe I'm unlovable unless its a dog.

So no my T never has, I think it's a stupid rule they can't. they should be allowed to say it if they wish, love doesn't always mean romance. There is nothing "horrible" about loving someone, only rules of therapy make it feel such.

I am sorry this happened, but for me it wouldn't be a reason to walk.... however if you need it, I get that but sadly I don't think there is many T's out there who would ever give this to you So you may keep blinding chasing something you can't find, even thought your former T did

I am glad he talked to you on the phone, did it help at all?