I find it helpful to imagine different ways the world could be. Afterwards I can scale down the version in my head, for instance I find it useful to say "**** it" to a lot of things and people I worry about. I also like to be honest about what feelings I am feeling. It frees me to name the feelings that are shadows behind the person I want to be. When I'm angry, that is a feeling that can really hide behind niceness for me. I am working on admitting what I want, this makes me feel the most free. I look at feelings as books in a library. I can take out any book I want and enjoy it.