My T says that I kind of shrug about certain things that a parent did that put me at risk as a child (things I would not stand for if they happened to another child now) because other adults knew about the situation at the time and didn't do anything to protect me. So I made myself an exception to the "children deserve to be protected" rule in order for the world to make sense. I'm getting in touch with my anger a little bit now as part of building a healthier sense of self, but it's been a very slow process.