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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I don't really understand why therapists think it's so important to get angry. I had one who pushed it to such an extent that my internal rage grew and grew and grew and couldn't be contained, and I was just left as this angry alone person. From everything you've shared, I don't think your therapist is that incompetent, but I just don't see the value in getting angry like that. I think what you are doing, by providing a way out, is great and good.
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I think getting in touch with anger can be a natural part of healing, but I agree that it isn't good to try to force it. When I think about times I have been really, truly angry in the past, it has often been because somebody I care about (like my spouse) has been unjustly wronged or hurt in some way. I have never felt that way about injustice against myself, and I think that's because I have always had an incredibly low, unnecessarily harsh opinion of myself. On some level, I kinda thought I deserved what I got. Getting in touch with my anger first started with me getting angry with my therapist (instead of my parents), and I'm glad my T is able to understand what's happening and help contain my anger. The force behind anger can be uncomfortable for both of us, but for me, learning to understand it and manage it is probably going to be key for the next phase of therapy.