Thank you for your reply! Sorry you had to go through that. The last part of your first sentence really hit me. "I can't love him out of his past hurt". I've been thinking the same thing too. That he just needs more time. But it's been over a year and it still pops up every now and then. Not all the time but it does. But my mind is preoccupied by it. I have dreams about this womem. Ive heard too much.. and now I don't know where to go from here. I don't know how to come back from all this. I didn't find out he was separated but still married until after 4 months. By then I was already attached to him