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Originally Posted by BirdDancer
You seem to have a lot of insight about this problem. I wonder if it is more of either an addiction or self-medicating in conjunction with your mental illness rather than impulsivity.
You might consider an online support group for over spenders or debtors, especially if over spending is an ongoing issue for you.
Do consider returning things for refunds. If it is possible, but you just don't want to, that's another serious point to discuss with your therapist and/ or psychiatrist.
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It’s not an addiction, I don’t think. I’ve never had an addiction. But there might be a degree of self-medication occurring: I feel a kind of entitlement to spend? I do think that my mania drives these overspending sprees, however. I have no insight at all about my problem!
I think finding an online support group is a terrific idea! I’ll Google soon.
As for returning things... my latest purchases included two cheap suits requiring some alterations so I can’t return those and, gulp, I’ve never had the energy to return anything. That would be admitting defeat. (?)
That last sentence is my excuse, I think, for my inability to relinquish control of my finances to another party, all the while knowing that it might be the best solution to my overspending.
Those two suits - from Jos. Bank (whomever) - one black and one blue. I have no need - none - for more suits. I haven’t worn a suit in almost 20-years. My ‘thinking,’ whilst within my purchase, was that I needed a newer black suit for funerals and a newer blue suit for... other stuff.
I have no explanation for my behavior. It’s one of those things that I cannot help to do that which I do.
I’m seeing my new shrink in one week. My mania will be evident so I think I might have a chance to discuss my spending sprees.
Thank you so much for your support and suggestions.