Over the last six weeks, I have had distressful, depressing sexual and gender based anxiety, all stemming from a comment someone made in a chat room based on a sexual kink. I am a straight 26 year old male who has a lot of kinks, such as incest, bondage, rough sex, etc. One of those is a gender changing fetish, and in a chat room on DiscordApp where I was discussing that and reading an erotic caption where a stereotypical straight male was turned into a stereotypical straight female (The more drastic changes do have a bigger erotic element to me, although I also like other variations and this fetish would be interesting to me for awhile and then lose its appeal again), someone made a comment saying the only reason I liked that or was attracted to women at all was because I only envied them and that I am really a straight woman. This comment has caused me constant distress and worry ever since and made me get constant, ruminating thoughts that distress me greatly. I don't want to be a woman for real and I have never been attracted to guys and loved women my entire life, with my first crush being at 8. Ever since reading this though, my libido and attraction to women has gone down, I find myself checking attraction levels to everyone, my sleep has suffered, my appetite has lowered, and I am a nervous wreck, as well as generally unhappy. My failure to get a girlfriend in the past has also added to this doubt. I have never been successful long term in that area, despite having a few crushes that I felt madly infatuated with for awhile. My shy, reserved nature makes it hard to form those connections. I would like nothing more one day than marry a woman, have children, just the typical adult male life many guys have. That comment from awhile back though has me plagued with self-doubt. I don't want to feel this way. That comment turned something I had enjoyed as a harmless fetish for a few years into a nightmare and has caused me to question my entire life. I am tearing up a little as I type this. This whole ordeal has me feeling the worst I have ever in my entire life. This is not the first time intrusive thoughts have tormented me, either. Back in 2014-2015, I got a scare and worried I had colon cancer because of a tiny speck of blood in my stools, and them being thin and small, and in 2014, I worried I had HIV for months because I hooked up with a girl who was known to be promiscuous and got a fever the night later. I spent six months ruminating on that and felt incredibly sick and depressed at times, which was all mental, as the stress was punishing my body. Prior to this recent occurrence, I was feeling the best I had been in years, looking the best, and had began to develop a little more confidence with talking to and approaching women. This ordeal has destroyed all the progress I had made and put me in a worse spot now than I have ever been. I would give anything to feel like I did before this began. I felt my best, now I feel my worst.