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Originally Posted by Virginiaham
Hi, I was wondering if anyone had noticed themselves crying more as they get older, or from some other reason?
I have had major depression for most of my life but I used to be able to hide it better. I would cry only a few times a year, always alone, and so a lot of my pain wasn't visible.
I'm 26 now and have noticed within the past year or two that I can no longer hide emotions like I used to and I cry MUCH more easily. I absolutely hate it because I get very embarrassed and I don't feel better afterwards - I just beat myself up for looking 'pathetic' in front of others. I cried at work last weekend and so I am desperate for answers as to why this is happening, or ways to make it stop.
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Yeah if you cry a bit you feel better afterwards due to the release, but I think if you cry a LOT, there is not gonna be any relief because the problem causing you to do all that crying is too big for it to just disappear like smaller problems do disappear. (Assuming there's such a big problem there. It could be some other reason, see below for more.)
If it's really due to a big problem then I think the only way to stop it is if you are able to change your circumstances, whatever the big problem is, for the part that can be changed, and for the part that can't be changed, well, try to find a way to live with it...? I'm not sure on that part myself, but that's the only logical option I guess. But the real point is that a lot of things can be changed if you work for achieving that.
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I don't think it's a medication issue because I cry while on meds (low doses of Adderall and Lamictal) and off, and the crying started before this particular cocktail. When I was younger I would never really cry no matter if I was on antidepressants / mood stabilizers or totally unmedicated.
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Ok yeah it's probably not a medication issue, just maybe your hormonal balance changed as you age, and/or your circumstances got worse.
It's possible it's just your hormonal balance yeah, and not actually very bad circumstances.
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I searched for 'tips on how to stop crying' and many of the websites said to inflict pain on yourself as a distraction... As someone who struggles with self harm that was not helpful, but I don't know what else to do.
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Wow I can't believe there are actually websites out there suggesting that as a "solution"!!!
OK, so I'll share with you what I did when I had a crying period. I would cry for hours every day and no it didn't bring me relief, like normal crying would. So eventually I figured out that it just was leading nowhere and I just had enough of it. That stopped it. Also, I did have big problems that the crying was caused by, I guess, and I did try to address those too. I did end up taking action for that. Removing some bad influence in my life, etc.
I hope at least some of this helps... I wish you luck to find a solution.