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Originally Posted by starrysky
Hey Tisha, I didn't take offense to what you said.  thanks for clearing that up for me about the black and white thinking. I hope I did not offend either!  Making your needs clear over and over and not having them be met is so frusrating!! Been there. |
Yes, it was so frustrating I developed borderline traits! I began hitting myself in the head, stomach, thighs out of severe stress and frustration.
I hung in there for 20 years thinking we could work it out, find some solution, get therapy, maybe it’s all me, maybe it’s him, maybe the house is possessed!
Had I had better self esteem and a better career where I could support myself, I’m sure I would have dumped him.
After all the analyzing, IDK if I have a deep down emotional/intimacy issue and self sabotaged. But my feelings were genuine and uncontrollable. F DBT, listen to your heart.
