Husband took a job transfer in another state in May of last year. Everyone asked how he was going to maintain two households. Told everyone it was going to be no problem, wanted our daughter's and I to join him, I said no.
This was his 3rd job in 3 years, it was always everyone else's fault as to why the job did not last.
From June to October, he visited his children twice. In October I received a text that said he was about to walk away from a 13 year marriage because I chose our daughter's choir over him.
I told him we both have been unhappy for a while, and he needed to move on and find someone who would make him happy.
When he called after my text, he said he was surprised by my answer. And wanted to know why I wanted him to be happy. He then said how there were a number of women he was interested in but did not want to disrespect me before talking to me about it first.
He said he wanted it to be quick and easy so we could both "move on". That never happened!
8 days after he asked for the divorce, I had not even filed yet. He cut off my phone the morning we had an electrical fire in the house. It was in retaliation for telling his parents he gambled over $19,000 of my retirement money away, and had not been helping pay the utility bills or supporting his kids.
2 weeks later he emailed me and told me to expedite the divorce because he was planning on getting married in the near future.
When I went to court in Dec. I was surprised that he showed up. The judge would not finalize the divorce till we agreed on the final divorce decree. He would not agree or discuss any changes.
It took him 4 1/2 months to see our children and his first visit, he brought his girlfriend with him. And he wanted our children to spend the night in the hotel that he was staying at with the girlfriend. I said NO!
Then he put a restraining order out against me, said I forged his name on the taxes I filed, and wanted half the tax return money. He has not paid a dime in support of his children, and he is not on my tax return.
He skipped out on the last two months rent at his previous apartment, his car was repossessed last month, and his phone was cut off for owing over $800.
Before the repo could be put on his credit report, he got another car.
I asked the judge to put a morality clause in the temporary orders, so the children can not spend the night with him if his girlfriend is there. That pissed them both off. My husband is trying to get my children out of choir, even though our oldest has been in it for 4 years.
If it does not benefit him or the money is not spent on him, then it is a waste of money.
He is angry because he can no longer control us, and has drained all the money he could out of me. That is why he is now after the tax money.
I just need him and his girlfriend to go away and leave me and the children alone.