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Originally Posted by growlycat
No one likes therapy ruptures or at least I’m fairly sure no one enjoys them.
I think therapy ruptures are defined as a severe breakdown in the t and client relationship, patients often drop out at this stage.
I find them deeply destabilizing. I feel like I can’t go on living. They are scary to me and devastating. I think some people figure it will all work out. But for me in the middle of one it feels like nothing will ever be better ever again.
I go into therapy tomorrow night with a deep need for things to be on the mend. It may not go that way.
How do you pull out of a devastating rupture? What does t do to help you? What do you do for yourself? I’m scared for tomorrow.
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Hi growly, from what you've shared, I don't think you have anything to be worried about tomorrow. Kashi will try to smooth things over by reeling you back in. I think the question is if that gets at your deeper issue in a more sustainable way? At the very least though, he seems the type to want you to leave feeling good about him.
I say this as someone whose therapist doesn't even acknowledge ruptures. She seems puzzled or confused whenever I suggest such a thing. The closest was her admitting that she'd lost her composure due to other stressors, although she wouldn't say what those were/are other than a tragedy for someone close to her, and a series of crises outside of work. Now she says it's other reasons, like workload, so who knows. The benefit is that it puts things into perspective for me about the relationship, and I can create distance to cope. I am guessing that's not going to help you, though.