I think it sounds like you have too much on your plate right now. The fact that you are hiding is a major clue to that!

How can you withstand the challenge of trauma work without being strong enough? I guess I differ from your T's and think you should build yourself up to be strong enough to do trauma work. In the meantime, real life doesn't wait, so get strong, deal with the family and divorce, and then return to trauma work. However, your T's know you best...

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both my T's feel that I need to recover from past issues to deal with present issues.... My husband is now challenging me on everything from the kids to the house to the financials, and my lawyer and his lawyer have been trying to come to an agreement for the legal seperation, in the mean time he and I are still under one roof

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yeah, I hear your T's, you do need to resolve past issues. Someday. But this is a NOW crisis that doesn't wait for one to do trauma work. You can't afford to be weakened, retraumatized, driven to drink or drugs, or made suicidal by the trauma work. You need all your strength now. I am so glad you have a lawyer. Go to your regular T for support on these issues. Tell him you need his support to get through this. Work hard with lawyer to get separate residences set up so you can get some breathing space from husband. Lean hard on lawyer for help with financial settlement and custody issues.

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part of me just wants to stop the seperations proceedings right now, and deal with the marriage until I can be strong enough to stand up to my husband!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Isn't getting a separation dealing with the marriage? How can you do one and not the other? Do you mean you don't want to get a separation after all and instead work on fixing the marriage? I agree, it is important to resolve that issue if you have any doubt.

Hang in there.