What an incredible burden to put on a child - to be the "savior" of your marriage. Please don't do this.

Many people. . .many, many people believe that children complete a family. Children are wonderful assets to a family, but they are not the completion. When God created man, He said it wasn't good for him to be alone, so He created him a helpmate, and then He DID say, "This is good." Period. End of sentence. Not good if they have kids. Not good if they're parents. We are meant to be good with one another, and then maybe, we should try kids. Kids are not what makes you good together. You guys need to learn to be for each other, before you worry about "being" for kids.

I'll tell you something that I have learned in my long marriage, and with my kids. Our children became much more happier, and more secure with us when my DH and I began to put one another first. Not the kids, but each other. When he comes home and I'm already home, he comes straight to me. Daddy's home is definately a time for celebration, but they have to learn that Mommy is the light of Daddy's life. . .and they run a close second. It's the same with me. . .he is the light of my life. . .the kids come next. They are not first. . .and they are not what makes us good together. We are good together b/c we love one another, and b/c we work at that love. It doesn't just happen, and no matter what your husband thinks, it won't happen simply b/c you get pregnant, stay pregnant, or have umpteen children.

Please seek some guidance; a counselor, a pastor, someone your husband trusts and respects. Having a child to "fix" your marriage is going to create a lot of resentment when your marriage comes undone.