I keep stubbing my toe on boundaries or tripping over them and falling on my face I try so hard to observe each and every one. I want to lessen contact , because contact is a source of pain and also the soothing of pain. It is very troubling and conflicting when T's themselves lessen contact bc it feels like a rejection while they are saying it is not? I have not been there yet, but where I am stinks. It is all about how real our feelings are compared Toit being their job I think.