Temporarily disregard all of the external circumstances that you just mentioned. Take them out of the picture - the details/specifics are not the heart of the matter...

What do you feel is the actual source of these particular expectations that you hold and keep for yourself? What is it that you feel you will ultimately gain/secure by holding onto these expectations and maintaining the same relationship/orientation/attachment to these expectations? When I say 'the actual source', it's something which transcends the practical matters of everyday 'human life' (like earning a paycheck and paying living expenses)... What do you feel that is? What is the driving force behind this?
(I don't want to influence your answer by giving any examples at this time)